Contest Winners and other Drivel

First and foremost, Happy Memorial Day. While you’re sitting there in your beer soaked shirt with remnants of barbecue sauce on your face, don’t be a twatwaffle – thank our past and present service men and women.

On to business, only ONE of the FIVE winners of the giveaway have bothered to claim their prize.  I’ll give you until Friday, May 30th to contact me.  If you forgot what the hell I’m talking about go HERE.

And if you don’t claim your FREE BOOKS… I’ll come find you.

serial killer photoshopNo. No I won’t. So please contact me so you can get your books. What’s the point in a giveaway if I’m not giving shit away?

So all three books from my Dirty White Candy series have been released.  I’ve been marketing my ass off. I’ve paid for ads. I’ve joined shit to spread the word and I’m even paying a minion to do some of my dirty work.  What does that mean?  I’m in the fucking red.

It’s okay. These things take time and HEY, it’s a tax write off.  The less money I pay the IRS the fucking better.

The Erotic Author’s Guild has nailed the thieving douchenozzles who pirated my books to the wall and got them to remove my stuff from their site.  I love the Guild.  If you haven’t become a member (authors/cover artists/editors) then you should.  Click the LINK HERE to learn more. I have no problem giving books away, but no one has the right to do that but me.

I’m currently looking at events and seeing what my budget can handle.  And I’m working on a new novel. Excuse me while I do a dorky happy dance.

I fail to mention to people that I write other stuff.  Yep, I do. Anita Cox is just a penname so my readers don’t get confused, but I do write crime fiction and suspense as Kim Mullican. Yep, that’s my real name.  Some authors use a pen name to hide their identity. I use it so my fans don’t get confused.

So, if you’re into books that aren’t full of sex in addition to the erotica I write, I invite you to check out my other work. Some of it is pretty goddamned disturbing, so make sure you read the description before you buy. Because you might just piss yourself, and while it’s warm and cozy at first…it can get quite uncomfortable in just a few minutes.




Sizzling Summer Reads Event

Through the month of June! $100 Grand Price and tons of giveaways.  Click on the picture for more info.

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Reviews that make me whole!

Any novelist will tell you, there are moments of self-doubt.  When reviews come in, we read them with great trepidation. Will they like it? Will they hate it? Should I even be writing? 

As I start receiving reviews I find a renewed sense of purpose.  The latest review from Romance Reviews is a 4-star wonder that made me leap out of my seat. The reviewer Delta had this to say:

THE BEGINNING is book 1 in the Dirty White Candy series by the fabulously named Anita Cox. At first, I thought of this story as basically a series of erotica featuring Candy and her exploits. As I got more into the story, I felt a kinship with Candy and a “you go girl” attitude to her taking charge of her sexuality and not feeling ashamed for testing out every water she can.

I’ve received other 4-star goodies that lifted up the writer in me.  Victorious Reviews and this to say:

The author leaves nothing to the imagination; it will grab your attention and pulls you in the story line. You can feel the emotion of the characters; it kept me on the edge of my seat the whole time. It was intriguing, provocative and dazzling.


A Not so Sexy but Helpful Post

I’ve been in this business for about a decade and I’ve learned a LOT along the way.  I read blogs by successful authors.  I follow social media experts like Kristen Lamb.  I take notes, both mentally and literally.  The best thing about the writing community, well, is that it is a community.  We help each other. We give each other spots on our blogs, swap books for beta reading, editing and sometimes review.

I like helping my fellow authors.  I also like getting help.

But I find that I’m starting to get very irritated by some of the newbies.  With books like 50 Shades increasing the interest in erotic literature, there are a ton of people trying to hop on the bandwagon and they are committing every atrocity in the business.  They will use you, step on you and lie.  They have shitty cover art and slap a “New York Best Seller” label on the front. BITCH PLEASE.

I’ve been calling people out on facebook.  I’ve posted little snippets.  So, I decided just to make a post and hopefully, other authors will see and share.  Below applies to all genres of writers.  I’m even providing links of blogs I’ve followed for years.


What NOT to do:

1. DO NOT TRESPASS: Collaboration is a gemstone in this industry.  I’ll cover that under my DO list.  But USING other authors is a huge no-no.  Don’t post your crap then tag every author you’re friends with on facebook.  That’s no different than putting signs in your neighbors lawn advertising for a service that they don’t use.  Don’t trespass. Don’t post stuff on other’s facebook walls without their permission.

2. DO NOT BE DISHONEST. Do not, under any circumstances, swap reviews for books that you do not read.  Don’t ask people to post reviews for you.  The public will sniff you out as a liar.  Having several 5 star reviews from folks that obviously didn’t read your book is a quick way to land your name and novel in one of the many Amazon Forums… not the kind of attention you want or need.

3.DO NOT LOSE YOUR INTEGRITY.  There is no fast way to the top. It takes time and a SHIT TON of hard work.  If you have the money for advertising that can help speed the process.  Don’t follow people like Melissa Foster who will encourage you to use people… there is a large group of folks who really dislike her for it – and I’m one of them.

4.  DO NOT utilize auto-post features.  This is self-explanatory.

5. DO NOT GET YOUR TITLE WRONG.  First, it’s “aspiring” not “inspiring.”  Second, you are either an author or not.  Believe in yourself.

6. DO NOT GET INTO THE BUSINESS… if you’re not going to stay.  The pool is already diluted.

books_and_wine___later_by_dh6art-d45r29oWhat to DO

1. Follow a social media expert like Kristen Lamb. She gives a ton of advice on her blog for free and she has a few VERY REASONABLY priced books also.

2. Read blogs by folks like Joe Konrath who have been in the business for a long time.  True, he had a back list and that helped… but he’s done the hard work and will tell you how to do it (for free.)

3. If you need to learn how to write effective queries, read The QueryShark.  Janet Reid is no longer doing this, but the archives are full of goodies. UPDATE: I JUST NOTICED THAT SHE’S BACK!!!!

4. Collaborate.  Find other authors to post on their blogs/pages for you.

5. Take the time to contact reviewers for HONEST reviews.  This takes a lot of time as most reviewers have a large pile of novels they still have to get to.  Some will pass. Some won’t even reply. According to one marketing company I spoke with, there’s about a 20% rate of response.

6. Do be respectful.  Respect your audience and your fellow authors.

7. Do read. Read a lot. Read in and outside of your genre. Read the paper. Read blogs of folks who have made it big. They almost always give advice for free.

Most of all, remember that this is a profession.  You must act like a professional.

Interview with KaLyn Cooper

I’d like to introduce you to KaLyn Cooper, my gun-slingin’, shine-makin’ fellow Liquid Silver Books author.

Anita Cox: Welcome KaLyn!  So you write romance.  Tell us why romance?

KaLyn Cooper: After thirty years of writing annual reports, brochures, promotional material and trade articles for corporations, I decided I needed happy endings.

Anita Cox: Do you write in any subgenre?

KC: Yes, Romantic Suspense. I like to call it Run and Gun with lots of Fun.

AC: What is the heat level of your books?

KC: Liquid Silver labels it a level 2 out of 4, spicy hot. It has explicit sex, no BDSM though.

AC: Tell us about you.  Do you have any passions other than writing?

KC: I’ve written all my life, winning my first creative writing contest in the sixth grade. I spent thirty years in marketing and public relations where I verged on creative writing for corporate clients but never crossed that line until a few years ago when I wrote my first romance story. As a military wife to Macho Marine, I’ve moved across the USA a few times and to Japan. Nineteen moves later I’m in East Tennessee. As for passions, I’m a gun-girl. I shoot skeet as often as possible, love to hunt birds, like my pistols for protection as well as target shooting.

AC: Let’s talk about you. Could you tell us the most interesting/different childhood experience that you had (or what was your unique upbringing like)?

 KC: When I tell people I grew up in New York I have to qualify it by adding Upstate before they ask me about tourist sites. My childhood home was in a very small town, on a small lake at the farthest point from New York City as you could get and still be in the same state. I had 56 in my high school graduating class. Although we lived in town, my parents owned a farm where we raised cattle for the freezer and horses we rode all summer long on trails and at horse shows. We had a ski resort less than five miles away to entertain us since the average snowfall was of over 25 feet per year. With one sister and four Alpha brothers by blood and a neighborhood of “brothers”, I grew up a strong woman. I guess that’s why romance appealed so much to me. My mom worked full time and went to school nights as soon as my youngest brother entered elementary school. We graduated from college the same year. As the oldest girl, I was tasked with Mom duties and regularly fed half the neighborhood boys at supper.

AC: So… you had an interesting family member who was influential to you.  Tell us about her.

KC: My grandmother lived across the street from us and ran a nursing home in part of their big old house. While young, I spent as much time at their place as my own testosterone-filled home. I learned to work for the money I was given and she was generous. There’s a reason I never became a nurse. She insisted I speak what she called the “high English” so I was one of the few children who knew the difference between “shall I, may I and can I.” At her insistence I wore greased hands inside white cotton gloves and walked with a book on my head when she thought I was slouching. I know she feared I was too much a tom boy, influenced by all the boys that congregated in our side yard to play football, cowboys, and Batman. Believe it or not, as children we played outside! AC: Oh yes, I remember those days!

AC: I find you quite interesting and unique.  Give us a Day in the Life of KaLyn.

KC: Our house is always filled with activity. We make wine, beer and moonshine, it’s legal in Tennessee. We shoot guns and in the summer have our own range. I have five raised-bed gardens so you may find me planting and plotting, but I’m not really talking to myself, I’m dictating into my smart phone. We live on the river that comes out of the Smoky Mountains National Park and try to paddle the river several times a month during the summer.

AC: OKay, let’s get into writing.  As writers, we pull from life experiences.  So I’m interested to know, what influenced your taste in men?

KC: Weekends of my youth were filled with horse shows and that’s probably why I don’t write about cowboys. We’d take the camper filled with my parents and all six kids, pulling a horse trailer with six to eight horses on board. We’d spend the weekend surrounded by every little girl’s dream; horses and cowboys. By the time I reached seventeen, I’d had enough of both. I traded my mare in for the horsepower found under the hood of muscle cars and my boots for high heels. I discovered bad boys were everywhere, thank God! I finally found there were a few good men and some of them drove fast cars. Macho Marine had a Road Runner that could pass everything on the highway…except a gas station.

AC: So what’s in the works? Any unfinished novels you might dust off and resume writing or reworking?

KC:  Explosive Combination is my debut romance novel but I have another in the pipeline hoping to see the presses by July. My work in progress should be ready for a fall publication date. I have two or three other stories started that may, or may not, make it to “The End” but they are more Chick-Lit.

AC: What is your writing “system” like, and how has it evolved over the course of your career?

KC: I owned ad agencies when the kids were little and did my best writing at night. I could relax knowing everyone was home safe and tucked in bed. I’d often write till two in the morning. Now, I’m up by seven-thirty and writing by eight in my jammies. When I get tired or stuck, I go shower. The steam usually helps me clear my thoughts and the end of the scene just pops into my head so I dictate it into my phone. Mid-day I try to become a domestic goddess and cook or clean or at least throw in a load of laundry. I run errands and do normal stuff. After supper and clean up, I’ll try to relax with a book, but often end up back in my computer chair reading over and editing what I wrote that morning. 

AC: We writers know that a good beta reader is worth their weight in gold.  Tell us about yours.

 KC: I have several beta readers for different levels of completion. For instance, Teresa Reasor, who writes romantic suspense based on SEALs, is always one of the first to read my stories. She is so good at catching plot problems and suggests the coolest twists. I have a neighbor who reads next because she’s an excellent proof reader and as we all know, we read over our mistakes. Then it’s usually ready for submission. My last manuscript took a total of six edit passes and I’m sure there’s still a mistake in there. 

AC: Do you think of yourself as a particular type of writer?

KC: I like writing factual fiction. Every book I’ve written so far is based in facts, often obscure facts that some people would believe were not true. Over the years I’ve learned that fact is stranger than fiction and some of this stuff is too good to make up. The fact it’s real is downright frightening sometimes.

 My work in progress is based on Mayan golden goddesses stolen by the conquistadors, a documented fact. I also like writing about foreign countries and I’ve been to Cancun several times. Isla Mujeres, the Isle of Women, is fascinating and its role in the discovery of gold which led to the colonization of America is mind-boggling…and true.

AC: What led you to tell this particular story?

KC:  Explosive Combination, my recent release, is based in fact. I was researching explosives for a different story and learned the following facts:

  • True fact: Scientists at the University of Michigan recently discovered that co-crystallization of two common explosives creates the most lethal, non-nuclear bomb on the planet, casually called Chaz.
  • True fact: In September 2012 Popular Mechanics magazine published the formula, which is similar to a process used in pharmaceuticals, to make Chaz. (Can you believe they actually did that? The link to the article is on my website.)
  • True fact: In 2003 the ATF was moved to the Department of Justice and became the Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco, Firearms and Explosives and created the ability to assemble an International Response Team.

My brain put pharmaceuticals, i.e. drugs, together with Colombia and the ATF’s international reach concerning explosives these days and the story was born. Add to that the fact that I was supposed to go to Colombia once upon a time.

Many years ago I was set to go to Colombia to oversee a photo shoot, both stills and video, for a client who offered dove hunting, deep sea fishing and mountain stream fishing to tourists all over the world. I’d worked in a trip to the emerald mines and a few days at a beach resort. But Macho Marine was headed to Command and Staff School which required a higher level of security, beyond his current top secret clearance. When the FBI agent asked us if we had plans to travel outside the U.S.A., I excitedly told him about my planned trip to Colombia. He closed his little black notebook and stood. Shaking his head, he announced, “If she goes to Colombia, you’ll never get this clearance and you’ll never be promoted to Lieutenant Colonel. Your career will end.” Needless to say I didn’t go. The client brought me boxes of pictures and thousands of feet of video tape. Thank goodness the suits and sunglasses never knew the client paid me thousands of dollars in cash which he handed to me while we quail hunted deep on his friend’s plantation in Southern Georgia. I never made it to Colombia but it’s on my bucket list.

AC: Which part of your story was the most difficult to write? Why?

 KC:Explosive Combination started as the first story in my Black Swan series but my agent said there was too much suspense and not enough r omance, to the extent she said it would be categorized Suspense with Romantic Elements. So I increased the romance and sent it back to her. Still not enough romance. “But the sex is good,” she told me. I added more romance but it still wasn’t enough for her liking since the other books in that series are closer to a suspenseful contemporary romance. In the end, we agreed to separate this book from the series which meant I had to completely rewrite it with new characters and eliminate the references to the characters in the series. What a pain! But I did it, found a few new twists and Explosive Combination was born. I’ll let you in on a little secret; there are still mentions of a few characters from the Black Swan series.

AC: If you had an unlimited advertising budget, how would you “get the word out” about your latest release?

KC: I’d make it a nation-wide Groupon and then I’d make a TV commercial and place it during Blacklist. I love the Elizabeth Keen character. She’s such a strong kick-ass woman at work and yet has this feminine side, very much like my female characters.

AC: What kind of elderly woman will you be?

KC: When I get really old, I want my kids to shake their heads and ask, “What the hell is Mom up to now? Do we need bail money…again?”

AC: If your next birthday party were going to have a theme based on one of your books, what would it be.

KCExplosive Combination is the perfect book to celebrate my May birthday. First, we’d all need to have a destination location that’s warm. I’m thinking the Caribbean. Then, we’d host an international contest to find the correct model/actor be Rafe, my hero in that book. And before you ask, of course it would involve a Speedo contest on the beach while we all sit under umbrellas sipping fruity drinks. Then contestants would be required to join us, individually, for meals. We need to judge their personalities and attributes up close and personal, don’t you agree? There needs to be dancing, too. Lots of sexy, body-rubbing dancing. As a shooter, I’d need to be sure each contestant could shoot better than me so we’d have to find a range and go shooting. Every night we’d have fireworks that lasted a long time. Ready to pack yet? AC: YES MA’AM!!!

AC: Okay, so now let’s get down to the nittygritty. Tell us where we can stalk find you and your book.




KaLyn Cooper’s romances blend fact and fiction with blazing heat and heart-pounding suspense. Twenty-two years as a military wife has shown KaLyn the world, and thirty years in PR taught her that fact can be stranger than fiction. She leaves it up to the reader to separate truth from imagination. She, her husband, and bird dog live in Tennessee on a micro-plantation filled with gardens, cattle, and quail. When she’s not writing, she’s at the shooting range or on the river.




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Erotica or Pornography – you choose.

Part of one’s responsibility as a writer, is to support your community.  With the broad sweeping of novels off the shelves by retailers due to the drama in the UK, many authors blogged about it.  It’s a delicate situation.  I don’t really like censorship, but I don’t want to see books like TAKING MY DRUNK DAUGHTER either.  Case in point, I don’t think books should be published that portray child abuse, rape (for titillation) or necrophilia.  But I’m no emperor and quite frankly, I enjoy my first amendment rights.  I won’t give them up without a fight either.  Therein resides the fine line.

However, I read a blog post the other day that had me spitting fucking nails.  Now I will provide a link in a moment and while the article really really gets under my skin, I will ask that anyone commenting to show a modicum of respect.  Agree or disagree – this is one of my peers and I will show her more respect than she’s shown me and mine.

The first quote that started my blood boiling:

“In broad terms, pornography is abuse: sex with children, rape, incest; sex with animals, sex with the dead, sex where blood is spilled. Porn is often, though not always, written from the male point of view, and is frequently composed with expletives and euphemisms.”

Are you kidding me?  Where the hell did that definition come from? I’d be willing to wager that those in the porn industry that check ID, ensure health cards are up to date and take responsibility for their craft would love to tar and feather her for that statement.

The next quote, this is where things start to get dicey and I’ll explain.

The first rule of erotic literature is that it is literature. It should be well-written. Erotica explores the dark, hidden, secret side of human sexuality. Its key elements are psychology, disparate human emotions often explored through aspects of domination and submission. Is spanking erotic? It can be. It is a human activity and its study requires the rhythmic stroke and elegiac beat of the literary drum. In a FaceBook Forum this same week with United Filmmakers Association, Joshua Looby provided tips on shooting erotica, and writer Caesar Voghan pithily summed up the discussion by pointing out that, in film terms, in simple terms, nudity is erotic, genitalia is pornographic.

Now it should be noted, if you didn’t catch it, the above quote about nudity and genitalia is not hers, but a filmmaker’s.  But this would make shows like Spartacus–porn. (Can you hear my eyes rolling?)

Finally – the third quote and what set me off:

I will end with some advice. To the booksellers: remember, writers are like flowers. Don’t trample on them. To the pornographer: put down the pen and get a life. To the erotic writer: keep going, keep writing, keep improving. Look at your work and, if you think to yourself: that’s good enough. It’s not good enough. Cut. Edit. Re-write. The way ahead will be tough. The only weapon you have is you ability, your integrity, your imagination.

So let’s sum this up: If genitalia, expletives and euphemisms are used, it’s porn.  Porn is abuse.  I, apparently, don’t write erotica, but according to Ms. Thurow, I write porn.  Therefore, I am a criminal who should be locked up next to the child abuser, the rapist and the necrophiliac.  Because my books have a bit more heat than hers and I’d rather see the word COCK then something like stem or rod or hardness.  Please, I’m an adult. A dick is a dick, not a flower, not a bulge – it’s a dick, cock, erection and so on.  Also, according to her and her definition, I should just quit writing. . . despite the fact that I just acquired a 3-Book deal from a publisher.  Well, I should quit writing as well as thousands of other authors. 😡

Never mind that the porn industry is a $14B a year business.  Yes, that’s billion.  Translation: whether or not you admit it, you watch it.  I have no problem admitting I watch porn.  On some nights, especially the rare night where the kids are all gone, the hubby and I like to kick back with an adult beverage and something rated X or worse.

But I digress… I’d really love to hear from you.  I want to know if I’m alone.  What is your definition of porn?  Do you think that erotica that doesn’t dance around names for genitalia actually porn? Is it criminal? Does it take from your reading experience or do you want to spend your time trying to decide if some guy is banging a hot chick or sticking into a dew filled lily?

Comment below and I’ll throw your name in a hat.  I will choose one random winner (no you don’t have to agree with me to win.)  I will send an Amazon gift card to the lucky winner.

Now if you want to read the blog post in it’s entirety, you can do so here.  But again, I implore you to be respectful.  Hell, you may even agree with her and that’s okay.  Just remain respectful is all I ask.

Horny Humpday Q & A with Cox!

SESSION NOW CLOSED.  Thank you to all those who participated.  I really enjoy chatting with my fans.

It’s quickly approaching the 7 o’clock hour (CST) for our Wednesday Q & A.


There aren’t too many rules here at the house of Cox.  You must be 18 due to mature content.  You can ask me just about anything.  I’ve yet to decline a question. Frequent topics are: sex, clubbing, swinging, health & relationships.

Feel free to post questions anonymously (Most do) below in the comments section.